31 Dec 2012 Leave a comment
in Reflections on 2012 Tags: Gay
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for OutTales around the Fire.
Here’s an excerpt:
600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 9,600 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 16 years to get that many views.
Click here to see the complete report.
Thank you to everyone who sat by the fire with us this year. See you in 2013!
30 Dec 2012 1 Comment
in Family, Reflections on 2012 Tags: Ade Adeniji, Authentic, Authenticity, Family, Gay, homosexual, Nigeria
I have often struggled with the issue of being ‘the authentic me’ when in dialogue with members of my family of origin.
The issue of ‘Is all of me welcome here?’ is always at the back of my mind. Somewhere along my life journey, I came to believe that I had to censor being myself in order to be fully accepted. And somewhere along that journey, that belief became – ‘that’s just the way it is’.
For a long time that approach was satisfactory, however over the past few years, it has been a hard struggle to maintain the facade of it all. In most cases, I have found that I resort to a default position of putting my head in the sand, hoping that the situation goes away… but sadly, it does not…. And like Bill Murray’s character in ‘Groundhog Day’ I find myself reliving an exhausting and unfulfilling scenario. More
06 Dec 2012 Leave a comment
in Reflections on 2012 Tags: Gay, growing up, Integrity, time
Feels just like yesterday that 2012 began; and how it has flown so fast.
I was going through an old journal earlier today, and came across some musings that I had written over 10 years ago. A relationship had just come to an end, my wounds were still raw. It felt like Life was not unfolding in the many ways that I had anticipated in my imagination. I sought solace in my journal.
As I walked down memory lane earlier today, I felt very different from my younger self who had shared his thoughts on those pages. And at the same time, I felt no different from that younger me.
Time….. guess it does fly by in the twinkle of an eye. I share below one of the musings that I wrote back then [one of the less shaming ones :-)]…… and further below, a picture capturing that whole essence of Now and Then…. More
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